Comments for Keep Talking http://neilhedley.com ...the more we talk, the better we understand each other Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:11:03 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on Why I’m Kind of a Mess Today by Neil http://neilhedley.com/2012/02/01/why-im-kind-of-a-mess-today/#comment-2726 Neil Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:11:03 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=767#comment-2726 That means a lot, Michael - thanks. Your characterization gave me pause; I think it's more like a wound than we're even aware. Sometimes as a physical wound heals, it still flares up if you bump it or nudge it the wrong way. I really appreciate you taking the time to type that out. That means a lot, Michael – thanks. Your characterization gave me pause; I think it’s more like a wound than we’re even aware. Sometimes as a physical wound heals, it still flares up if you bump it or nudge it the wrong way.

I really appreciate you taking the time to type that out.

]]> Comment on Why I’m Kind of a Mess Today by Michael Galvin http://neilhedley.com/2012/02/01/why-im-kind-of-a-mess-today/#comment-2722 Michael Galvin Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:30:55 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=767#comment-2722 I feel you, Neil. I lost my father a year ago and would give just about anything to call him up and get another "atta-boy" when things go well and I enjoy success. It took me a long time to find my way in life, too, but Dad always believed in me. Even when I didn't believe in myself. I would love to tell you that it gets easier, but unfortunately I don't think it really does. We just sort of get used to the loss. I think the loss heals like any other sort of wound. A bad cut goes from dramatically painful to just sore as it heals, to tender, and eventually the hurt is gone but the scar remains. I think the scars of our parents' passing linger for a long time. Congratulations on the book! And I am sure that you're Mom IS aware and is proud of you. MJG I feel you, Neil. I lost my father a year ago and would give just about anything to call him up and get another “atta-boy” when things go well and I enjoy success. It took me a long time to find my way in life, too, but Dad always believed in me. Even when I didn’t believe in myself.

I would love to tell you that it gets easier, but unfortunately I don’t think it really does. We just sort of get used to the loss. I think the loss heals like any other sort of wound. A bad cut goes from dramatically painful to just sore as it heals, to tender, and eventually the hurt is gone but the scar remains. I think the scars of our parents’ passing linger for a long time.

Congratulations on the book! And I am sure that you’re Mom IS aware and is proud of you.

MJG

]]> Comment on Why I’m Kind of a Mess Today by Neil http://neilhedley.com/2012/02/01/why-im-kind-of-a-mess-today/#comment-2718 Neil Wed, 01 Feb 2012 15:35:32 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=767#comment-2718 Thank you, Sharon. It's funny - there was a moment when I was writing the post last night when I felt like she was trying to let me know that she DOES know about what's happening. And honestly? It felt like I shared a moment with her. Eerie, but comforting at the same time. Thank you, Sharon. It’s funny – there was a moment when I was writing the post last night when I felt like she was trying to let me know that she DOES know about what’s happening. And honestly? It felt like I shared a moment with her. Eerie, but comforting at the same time.

]]> Comment on Why I’m Kind of a Mess Today by Sharon http://neilhedley.com/2012/02/01/why-im-kind-of-a-mess-today/#comment-2716 Sharon Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:45:46 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=767#comment-2716 I so so so understand this and actually wrote a post that will be published in a couple of days on the same topic. There are days when I'm incredibly angry at my mom for leaving us so soon, while others the sadness hits me in the stomach like a sucker punch. There really are no words to make you feel better and while nothing will ever bring your mother back, you are surrounded in love - hers and all the other wonderful people in your life who helped you get to this point. Congratulations on the book! I so so so understand this and actually wrote a post that will be published in a couple of days on the same topic. There are days when I’m incredibly angry at my mom for leaving us so soon, while others the sadness hits me in the stomach like a sucker punch.

There really are no words to make you feel better and while nothing will ever bring your mother back, you are surrounded in love – hers and all the other wonderful people in your life who helped you get to this point.

Congratulations on the book!

]]> Comment on Liquid Courage by Neil http://neilhedley.com/2011/12/22/liquid-courage/#comment-2481 Neil Tue, 10 Jan 2012 17:17:51 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=743#comment-2481 As always, Barry, thanks for weighing in. Couldn't agree more. As always, Barry, thanks for weighing in. Couldn’t agree more.

]]> Comment on Liquid Courage by Barry http://neilhedley.com/2011/12/22/liquid-courage/#comment-2462 Barry Fri, 06 Jan 2012 17:15:29 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=743#comment-2462 It is difficult to get your changes implemented when those passing the laws are "slip and fall" lawyers who make their money from the accidents caused by the drunk drivers. To be sure, more peer pressure is needed in the public sector and lobbying of politicians by the liquor industry needs to be outlawed. Everyone knows that drunk driving kills, everyone claims they never drive drunk, yet every year hundreds are killed by those who claim they never drive drunk (most of the time). MADD has made a small dent (more like a chip in the paint) in the DD laws, but gets too little support from a public that is afraid to be the first ones caught by the new laws. It is time to start charging drunk drivers who kill with their car the same way as those who kill by pulling the trigger. If you drink and drive, you are willfully pointing a loaded gun at the public. It is time to get tough. Neil, thanks fow bringing up such an important topic. It is difficult to get your changes implemented when those passing the laws are “slip and fall” lawyers who make their money from the accidents caused by the drunk drivers. To be sure, more peer pressure is needed in the public sector and lobbying of politicians by the liquor industry needs to be outlawed. Everyone knows that drunk driving kills, everyone claims they never drive drunk, yet every year hundreds are killed by those who claim they never drive drunk (most of the time). MADD has made a small dent (more like a chip in the paint) in the DD laws, but gets too little support from a public that is afraid to be the first ones caught by the new laws. It is time to start charging drunk drivers who kill with their car the same way as those who kill by pulling the trigger. If you drink and drive, you are willfully pointing a loaded gun at the public. It is time to get tough.

Neil, thanks fow bringing up such an important topic.

]]> Comment on Liquid Courage by Neil http://neilhedley.com/2011/12/22/liquid-courage/#comment-2379 Neil Fri, 23 Dec 2011 15:00:19 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=743#comment-2379 Amos, I didn't know about the false positives. Fascinating. Mind you, I wonder if a motivated team of engineers could get around the problems. Seems the NASA guys might have time on their hands lately, and they seem able to pull off the impossible on a daily basis. Amos, I didn’t know about the false positives. Fascinating.
Mind you, I wonder if a motivated team of engineers could get around the problems. Seems the NASA guys might have time on their hands lately, and they seem able to pull off the impossible on a daily basis.

]]> Comment on Liquid Courage by Neil http://neilhedley.com/2011/12/22/liquid-courage/#comment-2378 Neil Fri, 23 Dec 2011 14:58:06 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=743#comment-2378 Would be if I could find a snazzy title. Would be if I could find a snazzy title.

]]> Comment on Liquid Courage by Neil http://neilhedley.com/2011/12/22/liquid-courage/#comment-2376 Neil Fri, 23 Dec 2011 14:57:26 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=743#comment-2376 Thank you Sharon - I hope everyone came out of it okay? Thank you Sharon – I hope everyone came out of it okay?

]]> Comment on Liquid Courage by Kneale Mann http://neilhedley.com/2011/12/22/liquid-courage/#comment-2371 Kneale Mann Fri, 23 Dec 2011 13:10:24 +0000 http://neilhedley.com/?p=743#comment-2371 Agreed. And won't happen. The blame pointing privacy not my fault onslaught would crush these ideas like a bug, oh wait, done and done. Is food, dvd players in the back, coffee, talking with hands, texting, over tired or getting to work with no recollection of half of the trip because of mind wander next on the Hedley hitlist? Agreed. And won’t happen. The blame pointing privacy not my fault onslaught would crush these ideas like a bug, oh wait, done and done.

Is food, dvd players in the back, coffee, talking with hands, texting, over tired or getting to work with no recollection of half of the trip because of mind wander next on the Hedley hitlist?

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